Live your best life …
In light of recent questions about organising an inventory of personal qualities (otherwise known as your inner wealth) I have compiled a check list of qualities. It is by no means exhaustive and qualities are listed in random order.
TRUST CARE GOODWILL HUMOUR INTEREST WARMTH ATTENTION
APPRECIATION JOY OPENNESS DISCERNMENT ADMIRATION COOPERATION ENCOURAGEMENT
INCLUSION GENEROSITY INTEGRITY SINCERITY ACCEPTANCE PARTICIPATION CALMNESS
PATIENCE ADVENTURE ENTHUSIASM NATURALNESS HUMILITY SPONTANEITY UNIQUENESS
DEDICATION BOLDNESS OUTGOINGNESS THOUGHTFULNESS KINDNESS GENTLENESS DECISIVENESS
TOUGHNESS ZEST ASTUTENESS ADEPTNESS FRIENDLINESS TENDERNESS TACTFULNESS
MASCULINITY FEMININITY HONESTY LOVE TRUTH SERENITY GRACE
CREATIVITY ENJOYMENT WISDOM REVERENCE COURAGE COMPASSION DUTY
SELFLESSNESS SELFISHNESS SACRIFICE EMPATHY NURTURING COMPETENCE PERSISTECE
LOYALTY VALOUR FOCUS PERSEVERANCE BRAVERY
Question: Why do I need to compile an inventory of personal qualities?
Answer: The main reason for the list is to reacquaint yourself with the qualities you have at your disposal. These qualities form your base of operations or in other words the headquarters of your consciousness. As you look through the list, there will be qualities you recognise as ones that underpin the values by which you live your life. Great. Give those qualities some appreciation or a ‘thank-you’.
When you come to a quality on the list that makes you feel uncomfortable, take this an indication that an honest appraisal of your relationship with this quality is overdue. You have a choice to make, either to continue feeling uncomfortable or to appreciate the amount (%) of the quality you have and thus to nurture it. (for more information, please refer to blog entitled, STANDARDS TO LIVE BY)
You may have a measure of all of the listed qualities. Please realise that, how much you have is not as important as how much YOU VALUE what you have.
Question: I’m not interested in some qualities. Is that ok?
Answer: Some qualities will not be important enough to you and that’s only natural. for example, let’s consider Boldness. If you have some degree of Boldness and that degree is perfectly ok for your purposes, then that is just fine. This is not an issue for you.
THERE IS ONLY A PROBLEM WHEN LACK IS EXPERIENCED; that is WHEN WHAT YOU HAVE DOES NOT MATCH UP WITH WHAT YOU THINK YOU AUGHT TO HAVE.
Question: How do I know if I am assigning the correct percentage to my qualities?
Answer: The first thing to note here is that this is your own assessment. Only you know if you have ‘a lot’ of a particular quality or not very much. It may feel quite peculiar to assign a percentage to each one and in the end, the numerical value is only an indication of how you feel. You can revise that number up or down at any time. It is not set in concrete. The exercise helps to establish a starting point. As you become more familiar with this process, the more you will trust yourself and the percentage you ascribe.
Secondly, going through this exercise helps you zero in on qualities you feel uncomfortable about. These qualities are the ones that need extra care and appreciation. Assigning a % to all your qualities is a way of beginning a brand new relationship with yourself: a way of seeing yourself in a new light.
The main aim of doing an inventory of qualities (inner wealth) is to:
– remind you about your uniqueness and to help you appreciate your inner wealth.
– remind you that whatever qualities you have, you have enough. In other words, you are enough.
– remind you that nurturing the qualities you have is a pleasurable thing to do and will lead to peace of mind, contentment and above all, to the recovery of self worth.
– remind you that qualities will grow naturally when appreciated, for example, when you stop criticising yourself for not being ‘bold’ enough, you may find that the boldness you do have is quite sufficient to do what is necessary.
I hope that this clarification encourages you to draw up an inventory of qualities.
Remember to give from what you have and know, REALLY KNOW, that that is enough.
Here is a quote from Brene Brown about people who are living a contented life, “…..they have the courage to be imperfect and let go of who they should be in order to be who they are.”
BE KIND TO YOURSELF